About #LawsofAttraction #Hollywood #movie and other romcoms – A personal opinion

Do you love romcoms? I do! I usually find chocolate or brownies or a cuppa coffee good accompaniments to a romantic comedy flick – a surefire way to relax after a busy day at work.

Recently however, I found that instead of relaxing, I was stirrred up and annoyed. 

I have watched countless Hollywood and Bollywood (Indian Hindi) movies  – romances amd romcoms – where the heroine is depicted strong, independent and able to have her opinion – until she meets the hero and gradually changes into just putty. There’s a long period when she denies she could be attracted to him and then she succumbs amd instantly you find subtle changes in her – in her make up, her hair – instead of being tied up neatly in a severe bun, her hair come down, her dressing style changes to more fluffy and feminine, she does more make up or winds down or becomes adventurous or something.

Now I’m an avid romance reader, writer amd a romantic. But I don’t get why the woman’s whole personality should change when she falls in love. As though she was wrong before. As though being strong and independent are traits she must ditch in order to discover falling for the hero which is her ultimate destiny and these traits are standing in her way to do so.

The second objection of mine is to the softer, more made up look. She definitely gets a new wardrobe. Why does she need a complete makeover while the hero continues as blithely as before? The obvious point is that falling in love affects women more, that she was somehow on the wrong side of the fence and now discovers what she can be.

Laws of Attraction, which I watched recently, is a similar case in point. Entertaining and full of eminently watchable Peirce Brosnan it might be, but maybe it’s the era it was set in. Times have changed, but it is that particular outlook I’m commenting on. He is always right at every point in the movie, even when he uses unscrupulous means to get his way. She’s just wrong. She’s right only when she realizes she must beg for his apology for refusing his love. The last line, 80% of women are really lonely…just about made me go arrghh! Why can’t be a woman happy and settled and still find love?

If you watch Bollywood romantic flicks, you can pick up the character transition almost straightaway. In the older movies, the heroine would start wearing traditional clothing instead of western which she wore before falling for the hero, depictig she’s now ready for domesticity. I can’t name one right now, but maybe you can think of it, there are quite a few around.

Have you felt the same way about some romcoms? Watched Laws of Attraction recently? Loved it and disagree with what I said?

In contrast, while No Reservations (another one I watched recently) followed a similar pattern, at least the story made sense and didn’t put hero in the right even when he was in the wrong. A much more enjoyable movie – though the end left me fretting about out the kid’s studies. I wish they’d also shown her taking interest in school, because she had been shown ignoring it. But that’s probably the anxious mom inside me and a topic for another day.

Do you think being strong and independent excludes a woman from finding love? Do you like heroes to also fail sometimes and not be faultless and know-it-all? Any movies which you watched and felt had similar issues?

Do you think the expectations from a romcom are changing with the times?

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Is your productivity dependent on someone else being busy?

I, like most of us, like to maintain good relations with my work mates. We often take breaks together, have tea and catch up of each other’s news. But every so often, we spend time talking and one thing leads to another subject. That piece of news that you have to give an opinion on. That rule of the management that you have to rant on, and so on. I didn’t realize I was taking so much time off until one day, I found myself thinking, today so and so will be busy, so I will save time from chatting and get xyz done.

We often find it hard to tear ourselves away from that cosy chitchat, but if you find you are losing time in which you could have got things done, accomplished your goals, then do something about it.

What can you do:

1) Set up an alarm:

This is the most effective way that I have known to work. You want to take a doughnut break, fine. Give yourself a reasonable time interval and set an alarm. Easy to do with the phone these days. Discipline yourself to heed it and get back to work after it rings. If you planned to write or do some task, schedule a time for it and at least get started on it when your phone beeps.

2) Tell each other to keep it short:

You can ask your workmate to nudge you a reminder that so and so tasks are pending. You can return the favour.

3) Make lists

List making is always useful. At the start of your day, make a list of five tasks you must get done. When you have work looming over you in the form of an item waiting to be ticked off, you will find yourself hurrying to get it done.

Find what works for you and most of all, keep track of your time.

You don’t have to isolate yourself to be efficient, but every now and then, do try to distance yourself from indulging in gossip and keep things from joining the procrastination list.

Happy #WorldPoetryDay, Happy #Nowruz, folks! Happy #blogiversary and happy #bookpublishingday to me

What an exciting day today is! Many occasions falling together. Let me wish you all Happy World Poetry Day! Also a very Happy Nowruz, Persian New Year to those who celebrate it.

Today is my third blogiversary so Happy blogiversary and happy book publishing day to me as I hit publish today after an amount of feeling jittery and jumpy. His Christmas Surprise, Book 2 of Christmas Romance series, will be out soon!

On World Poetry Day, I put together something for my writers’ group FWBA, that I would like to share here.  I don’t usually write poetry so do excuse the floundering 🙂

Write something that shakes the false beliefs
and challenges the dusty claims
Write something that renews the inheritance
of the Earth we have got
Write with courage, hope and originality
which unfailingly aims
To banish darkness of ancient, moldy wisdom
and celebrates new thought

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Write more and create to inspire. Happy writing!

Update: The book link is now live! https://www.amazon.com/His-Christmas-Surprise-romance-Book-ebook/dp/B06XS6XZ7J 

Happy New Year 2017

The start of this year or rather the ending of the last was a really busy time for me. I hardly had time to muse about 2016 ending and the new one starting. We had relatives visting and an older person at home needed attention so writing and blogging had to be put on shelf. Now I’m into 2017 and still to wish my blog-reading friends…so here’s a very happy New Year to you all.

The holidays have ended and that puts me back in the routine. My current wip characters are pleased at least because over the holidays my writing word count had dropped to about ten per day :p If you’re back to your workday, you know how one needs acclimatising after being away, so I’m still at odds with the wip and the rest of the writing thing. However, I’m confident the characters will be more amenable to telling me what they think and feel after being put on hold.

Have you found your writing speed better or worse after a break? I usually find it has improved.

Hope you’re getting on well with your wip if you write.

Something exciting to share is that four books of mine are in the top 100 paid in their respective categories at Amazon.

Second Chance At Forever at #72

https://www.amazon.com/Second-Chance-Forever-Summerita-Rhayne-ebook/dp/B01IE40CTM

His Christmas Delight at #76

https://www.amazon.com/His-Christmas-Delight-Romance-ebook/dp/B01BYHO0AI

Against All Rules at #27

https://www.amazon.com/Against-All-Rules-Contemporary-Romance-ebook/dp/B00MY2QVRS

The Eligible Princess at #33

https://www.amazon.com/Eligible-Princess-Historical-Romance-Princesses-ebook/dp/B00Z09FAQA

Check them out at http://www.amazon.com/Summerita-Rhayne/e/B00MZQ0PUC

So here’s wishing you success and happiness in the shining and glossy new year. Keep reading and writing and do share your thoughts in the comments.

Guest post by Michele Smarty – A trip around the world of coffee aromas #coffeelovers

Today I have something different on my blog, a blog post for coffee lovers! Have you wondered about coffee tastes in different countries? Michele Smarty will share how coffee types vary from country to country. Please welcome author and blogger Michele Smarty.

Over to Michele.

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Do you want to enjoy a beautiful trip, while sitting on a simple couch?

Through this article, you can enjoy a fantastic trip around the world of coffee aromas while sitting in your room, lounge or anywhere.

Here, I am going to tell you about the best coffee aromas around the world through which you can easily observe the various coffee tastes of different countries and cultures.

America

In U.S., people are fond of drinking all kinds of caffeinated drinks but most of the people prefers espresso one.  Many mugs are boiled with Arabica coffee beans which contain lesser sugar. According to the studies, it’s been clear that coffee beans are roasted through a brewing process; it increases the level of antioxidant which prevents you from the damage of oxidizing agents.

Mexico

Mexican coffee is traditionally presented in a clay pot with cookies, which is the natural form of sugarcane. With a total deficit of processed ingredients, Café de Olla is a super fresh coffee option, but bewares of its high sugar count. It may hide the taste of sour beans for non-coffee lovers amongst us, but it shouldn’t replace your daily cup

France

We don’t have to visit France to enjoy Parisian coffee (which has become a Starbucks standard in the States). Unlike other coffee cups are served here, popular cafĂ© au lait is served with warm foamed milk which is garnished on the top of a small coffee. Make it decaf and cafĂ© au lait become a good alternative to a cup of lukewarm milk before bed.

Turkey

In Turkey, coffee is boiled instead of brewing, as it includes more heart-healthy nutrients like polyphenols, which help to guard arteries. This coffee is popular for its dark and strong taste.

Morocco

In Morocco coffee is made up of a nutmeg mixture, which includes spice and sesame seeds. This java combines an additional flavorful punch. As a powerful antioxidant that protects us from damaging the oxidizing agents, some studies have discovered that nutmeg also serves as an antidepressant (mitigate the depression).

Italy

Coffee lovers should agree on one thing that Italians know their coffee. So we’re prepared to hold a free mind and try to make our espresso like the Roman’s way, which they have been serving it for years: with lemon. Espresso is served with a small slice of lemon; it first spread around the rim of the cup and then allowed to steep. A lemon not only enhances the flavor but it also creeps in a boost of vitamin C.

Denmark

In cold weather, coffee usage in Denmark has eternally escalated and leading in the world. Coffee is such an important part of the Denmark’s culture that compact the cafes located on approximately every street corner, particularly in cities such as Copenhagen.

About the Author:

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Michele Smarty is a novelist and a fantastic freelance contributor writer at many popular websites e.g. Words I Seek. She loves to provide a useful information, amazing journeys or stories and interesting facts on multifarious vast topics and new trends to her readers.

 

Article at Bonobology site #relationships

I’m on Bonobology site. Have a piece published there about an arranged marriage going wrong. Come and visit…and share your views.

http://www.bonobology.com/Features/136/Divorce/Neither-friends-nor-enemies-after-divorce-Can-they-be-parents-together

Do leave comments on there.
Thanks for reading – and I hope – sharing.

Celebrating #InternationalWomensDay with a #giveaway

Let’s celebrate International Women’s Day, by recalling the women who have inspired us.
There are many women who hold my respect, but today I’m thinking especially of my mother and my mother-in-law. My mother had one clear goal in her life which was to get her daughters well settled in life. All her life, she worked tirelessly towards this. My father was often away and she had to see to the household as well as hold down a job. Whatever my sisters and I have achieved, we owe it to her. My mother-in-law is completely devoted to home though she worked as a teacher before her retirement. I’ve seen how she has faced health issues and other things without flinching, and time and again, has got back to her normal life by what often seems sheer will. I think I’m influenced by these two women quite deeply in my life and all my commitment to my family springs from that inspiration.

Which women have figured as inspiring people in your life? Alternatively, what’s your definition of a strong woman? Just answer any of these two simple questions to enter today’s giveaway. You can give examples from real life and/or fiction. One of the commenters will win both the books in the Indian Princesses Saga, featuring the princesses Lakshaya and Rukmani, female heroes who aren’t afraid to go after and stand up for what they want, even in the restricted society of the early medieval period in India.

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Amazon.com:http://www.amazon.com/Hidden-Passion-Historical-Romance-Princesses-ebook/dp/B00RBUM0EG

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Amazon.com:http://www.amazon.com/The-Eligible-Princess-Historical-Princesses-ebook/dp/B00Z09FAQA

Looking forward to your responses.